How do you do it !!!!

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  1. TUCANO

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    Sitting here van packed ready to go tomorrow and,

    I am dreading it :unsure:

    Reason being that I will be going on my own and it feels lonely already. I have only travelled on my own once and that was seven years ago after my wife died and I wanted to see how I felt being on my own, I didn't enjoy it so I sold the van.

    The relationship I have been in for almost four years has fallen apart and I am having to force myself to get out on my own otherwise there is little point in having the van, I am staying at my sisters tomorrow night, brother in law seriously ill, and then I intend wilding until Tuesday when I am back to work.

    Don't get me wrong, I am looking forward to running on the beaches, somewhere, and I am definitely going to finish up in Alnwick but ALONE :mm::mm:

    So, how do YOU do it :worried:

    Norman.
     
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  2. TUCANO

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    REALLY REALLY worried now as no one has replied :whistle: :LOL: (y)

    Happy Easter to one and all.

    Norman.
     
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  3. Dawn B

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    You get a dog :)
     
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    I have no idea if this will help but I solo'd for a while when I left my wife. I rallied more than wielded because then I was never alone for long.
     
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    AAAAWWWWWWW NO NO NO NO

    Thanks for cheering me up, looking forward to the alone bit a little more now :whistle:
     
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    Hi Norman, get yourself on a rally or two, we have a few single funsters who join up with us all, and join in the fun, some great friends have been made by us so come on man.

    Eric
     
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    Second the dog suggestion. Take a dog for a walk, especially a puppy and you will meet and get talking to loads of folk - other dog owners mostly but we don't bite, unlike some of our mutts! A bit of human contact is essential for most of us.
     
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    Eric,
    Thanks for that, I am booked on the rally at Garstang and also a couple of others and I am looking forward to them, I think :rolleyes:
     
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    Isn't there a single group on here, I thought Jim set one up?
     
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    Paul,

    There is a group, Trailmates, but they are always away I assume as there is little activity (y)
     
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    I have been fulltiming solo for 6 years now and love it. Having said that I have been single for most of my adult life so I can imagine if you are used to having someone around it might be a bit of a shock to the system. You will get used to it given time and hopefully find it as enjoyable as a lot of us solo travellers do. No more compromises, just do what you want when you want without any consultation. Solo travelling does have it's up sides you just have to learn to appreciate them.

    I would recommend Rallies and stopping on pub car parks/sites. Plenty of people around and good times to be had.

    If you haven't got anything planned for June can I recommend the Stratford upon Avon rally. It is a full week with lots of great people and in a fantastic location.
     
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  12. gloworm

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    Im sure you, ll have a great time at Garstang, we, re at chester this wk/end our next one is Peterborough.

    Eric
     
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    Hi Norman, hope you're week end goes well, like others have said why not try a rally we are at Chester rally and have s mixture of 20 solo campers and every one joins in. Stratford is a good one why not try and get along. [​IMG]
     
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    Or lots of 'activities'
     
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    Hey I know the feeling but I never really ever feel alone when I have lots of funsters to chat to. Ok it's not the same but if helps. As for the rallies and meets just arrive and chat to whoever you see. I have.
    If your willing to be friendly you need never be lonely.
     
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    I'm hoping to come alone to Stratford again - enjoyed it last year. Come along and we can talk Catalinas!
     
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    get a dog, that's what I did and now love heading off just me and dug :)
     
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    First, you are doing this under stressful conditions---the end of a relationship plus your brother in law being seriously ill.
    Add into that your memories of your first single trip when you were recently bereaved and no one would expect you to be anything other than worried about travelling alone.
    It's never going to be perfect, being alone when you've been a happy couple, but it can be ok, it can be good, it can be very good and it can be fun. Not every day, not all at the same time but the potential's there.
    One day at a time, see how this trip goes.
    Join some of the rallies on here. Come along to Ilfracombe if you San as there'll be a few of us solo Funsters there.
    First Fun rally I went to I managed to fall out of a motorhome, get taken off to hospital with suspected fracture and ended up on crutches! All the other Funsters rallied round, looked after my animals, went to the hospital with me, checked I was ok. You'll always find a warm & cheerful welcome.
     
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    Many thanks peoples, I will see some of you some of the time but not all of you all of the time (y)
     
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    Hi Norman
    I travel alone, though I do have my dog with me and she is excellent company, and even if she doesn't talk to me I can talk to her :) But I am used to always having a dog around.

    I use my travelling to do things that interest me or visit places I have wanted to visit but never got round to, so that is interesting in itself. Also travelling alone I find it easier to strike up a conversation, and before travelling that was the last thing I would have done - talk to strangers! But its surprising how many nice and interesting folk one meets.

    Thats a lot of 'interestings" in one paragraph, but in fact travelling really is that - interesting. Think about the things you have always wanted to do, and just go and do them. :)

    Alwick is wonderful - enjoy :)
     
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