TUI it's near the end (2 Viewers)

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Hi Everyone I posted before abut Tui and the cancer. Tui has been on Chemo for over 10 months, yesterday we went for another treatment but when she was examined by the specialist we were told the cancer is worse and Tui needed an xray to see how bad it was.

After the results we had a meeting with the consultant oncologist and disused the options. None are good, there are some remaining treatments but they have side affects which can be bad, and if we had opted for the enzyme treatment, a possible allergic reaction as well. All of the treatment options would only prolong Tui's life for another few weeks at best. Tui has always hated going to the hospital and gets very stressed, so much so that we have to give her a sedative before we leave home.


After the discussion, and considering all the options we have decided to stop treatment apart from antibiotics, for a lung infection, and steroids. We were given enough antibiotic for a week. When I asked if this was enough to treat the infection, it was obvious from the reply, they don't think Tui will last a week.

It's strange, Tui is still running around chasing toys and wanting to play, but she won't eat unless we hand feed her and then it's only a very small amount. We have had Tui for 9 years and it really is terrible seeing her like this, and the worst thing is we are going to had to decide when to have her "put to sleep" how do we know when? we want to keep her as long as we can but don't want her to suffer.

A day at a time.

John
 
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Riverbankannie

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Your last sentence says it, all you can do is a day at a time. Trust your instincts to tell you when time is right.
Sorry to read about Tui.

This is also what I told my daughter yesterday who is in similar position and said she hopes she will know when time is right.
 

irnbru

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Oh how I feel what you are going through right now. You know what you have to do for your love of TUI, its just when. I went through this last year and I think over the coming days you will know when enough enough. It doesn't make it any easier I know . Sending you some virtual HUGS
 

arto stu

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Sorry to read this... i had my old girl sent to sleep not so long ago...

Tui will let you know when she is ready to go...

We had mine done at home in her own bed... vet could not have been nicer

Stu

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We all know what it feels like anyone who has been in that sad situation thoughts are with you
 

pawwavingpuppy

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Really sad situation, I really feel for you, we've had 4 dogs during our married life, all have had a great life with us, and at the end, we sort of knew when the time was right to let them go (May be prompted by the vet?)

We always stay with them, I do any payments before we go in, so when things are over, we can just walk straight out. I manage to hold it together, but Mick is usually in tears before we get out of the surgery.....

The last time when we lost Sam our Westie, I said absolutely no more dogs. But here we are with Mack a Westie/Scottie cross? who wants to be everyone's friend...

A difficult decision but think about the great life they've had.

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What a difficult time for you. I was getting up through the night to hand feed our poorly boy, then one morning, he wouldn't take the food, we decided then that it "was the time". I'm sure you'll know. Keep strong for Tui and remember the good times.

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Caggsie1

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How sad, however it’s best for her. You will know when it’s time. I have always taken mine to the vet but my brother had the vet to the house recently when his Boxer went to rainbow bridge. I think this is a much better way, more private and personal. When my two girls time is up that’s what I will be opting for.
 
Feb 22, 2008
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Terribly sad for you . We are approaching a difficult time with our Benji who has terminal cancer and has been on chemo since November.
The best thing is they don’t know and carry on as normal until it hurts.
 
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Today is a good day. Tui has been running around chasing her toys in the garden, and she has eaten some fried duck. She gets tired quickly but still a good day!

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Terribly sad for you . We are approaching a difficult time with our Benji who has terminal cancer and has been on chemo since November.
The best thing is they don’t know and carry on as normal until it hurts.
Sending love and best wishes
 
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We really feel for you . Always a terrible time and will be a time for many tears.

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2 weeks on and Tui is still doing OK she gets tired quickly but apart from that she is the same as ever. She still looks great it's heartbreaking seeing her looking so well and knowing what will happen. The oncologist at the hospital didn't think she would last a week. I'm putting a picture taken a day or so ago and apart from all the shaved bits she looks the same as years ago.
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Love her, she looks a typical bright and eager terrier, it must be so tough for you but better for her that she stays bright and keen to the last.
Much strength and courage to you and may she pass peacefully in her sleep leaving you with happy memories.

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Hollyberry

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Feel for you, I’ve been there before so understand how you feel.
You will know when it’s time to call time. While Tui seems happy, is running about and interested in play, then she is feeling ok. You’ll know when she no longer feels like that.
Always a difficult time, the worst part of being an animal lover.
 
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Sorry to read about your dog.
You’ll know when it’s time. Lovely idea to have the vet come to your house.
You’ll be sad,but always remember that you’ve given her a fantastic life,and remember the good times.
Best wishes to you.
 
May 3, 2016
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This is so heart breaking for you & to read.
So many, including us, feel so deeply for you.
It's so difficult to cope with, but we have to sometimes and all we can do is show them how much we love them and make the right decision for them when the time comes.

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May 3, 2016
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Terribly sad for you . We are approaching a difficult time with our Benji who has terminal cancer and has been on chemo since November.
The best thing is they don’t know and carry on as normal until it hurts.
I am so sad for you reading this, my heart goes out to you as well, it hurts so much.
 
Feb 24, 2013
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I so feel for you and really hope it all works out as best as it can

You may know we went through the same earlier this year, but we didn’t have the knowledge about her condition, the final day was really hard but now we look back Lola made us aware she had had enough of this world

Snivelling like a baby here again wishing you well
 
Feb 22, 2008
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I am so sad for you reading this, my heart goes out to you as well, it hurts so much.

He is still behaving as normal , no signs of pain, still absolutely barmy so we enjoy every moment with him as we know a difficult time lies ahead.

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The day arrived yesterday, Tui was good up to now, she had been eating and we made smoothies with some dry dog food and venison steak we gave her this in a syringe and she would eat it well. On Thursday she was running in the garden she even jumped 2 feet up to catch her toy. But Thursday night she took a turn for the worse and by Friday morning she was note well and we could see in her eyes that she had had enough.

We called our vet, Ruth, who came out to the house and Tui was "asleep" by 11 am. It has been a long road and Tui had some bad luck she was only 9 she could have been with us for a lot of years yet. We had plans to take her of to Spain for a few months over the winter, Tui loved camping (not really camping if you take your own bathroom etc.)

The undertaker has just brought her ashes back after the cremation this afternoon, and the box is now next to that of Fagin our last dog who went about 20 years ago.

Kathy (Mrs. EX) is in tears most of the time and I've shed some myself. We don't have any grandchildren and our dogs are a sort of substitute. We still have Dolly another Jack Russell / Chihuahua cross, she is keeping us going at the moment.
 
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Crying as I read this - so very sorry, take comfort that you gave her so much love and she gave you so much in return, good to hear that Dolly is there for you - she must be feeling lost too. Treasure the memories you have of Tui, sending hugs to all of you x
RIP Tui xx
 
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So very very sorry.
In the past when we have lost our dogs/cats we have had them cremated, bought a flowering plant that reminded us of them and planted their casket under the plant in the garden. Martha's rose has lots of lovely flowers on it at the moment and I think of her very time I look at it.

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