relationships and camping ......

We've survived our first 5 weeks in our small MH on our winter tour with another 7 weeks still to go. Yes, it's different to living in a house with space to get away from each other, or being at work and having time apart, but ultimately if you both want the same things in life you'll make it work. When you realise you want different things maybe it's time to go your separate ways. I wouldn't want to be having this adventure with anyone else.
Edit: OH dictated that last bit :whistle:
 
I've just realized why my ex wife only wanted me to have relations with her back to me....... I thought it was we had a small van...... I have now come to the conclusion it was because she hated to see me enjoy myself................................. cow :Eeek:
 
As I am a gentleman , I always pulled her vest down afterwards....:imoutahere:

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Mousy said:
I don't think it's just camping, friends of ours went to the Maldives for their 25 wedding anniversary....she came back asking for a divorce saying 2 weeks on a small idyllic island made her realise they had nothing to say to each other :Eeek: and it was game over!
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:eek: .... mind you, I went out with someone for about 3 months and he took the place of a friend who cldnt make a cruise. Cruise was a week, I dumped him at day 4 !! What seemed like a massive ship became very small !
 
solo 1 said:
I've just realized why my ex wife only wanted me to have relations with her back to me....... I thought it was we had a small van...... I have now come to the conclusion it was because she hated to see me enjoy myself................................. cow :Eeek:
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You grin while performing ?? :clap2::clap2:
 
When we are away everything is new and exciting giving us much more to talk about and discuss than when at home when much of the time is spent in very familiar places with familiar people doing the routine chores most of the time with less to chat about as a result. We like to go away for about a month at a time at most as my wife won't leave the grandkids for longer plus some long weekends. We both enjoy reading, using iPads and don't use TV abroad. We also play cards together or solitaire or freecell etc.

Having been retired for 3 years my wife had a shock when I was suddenly at home most of the time apart from when off clay or target shooting which are my sports. We go out a lot together and we each have friends to see on our own from time to time. We also have grandchildren from both kids to either babysit or child mind and I am treasurer of 5 organisations plus do all the family finances so that needs some quiet time on my own. I am currently helping my son buy a pharmacy so will soon be back doing accounting, bookkeeping, VAT returns and PAYE etc!

As most say, I wonder when I ever had time to work!

My number 2 at work has recently retired and when I last saw him he wanted to go back to work as he felt redundant at home with his wife not wanting to relinquish any domestic chores or cooking duties! You need hobbies, chores and sport and obviously some money to help enjoy them all.
 
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Foxy1956 said:
Never go to sleep on an argument. I learnt that years ago. "Sorry," is only four letters, but can be the hardest word to say especially in a van and even more especially when you're in the wrong and won't admit it. I've been there and there is nothing to beat the healing of a hurt relationship.
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No its not its five!
 
Foxy1956 said:
We've always said that the reason we had 4 children was mainly the size of the van bed, tiny, and the fact we had to keep on having to say sorry, resulting in another baby.
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We've stopped saying s..............er, apologising, just in case!
 
My last SWMBO loved going away in the motorhome and couldn't get enough of it. We split after a numb of reasons and eventually I moved on, however my new SWMBO kind of puts up with going away, doesn't enjoy it at all and does it as she knows how much I enjoy it, but that atmosphere in such a small space can be quite unbearable. Don't think we've shared the fixed bed for months, with me making up the single to sleep on....watch this space:)
 
We love being away in the van.
As we have very different idea of what constitutes a good evenings television, when at home we are usually sitting in different rooms and only really 'meet' when one of us makes a cuppa.
When away, one tv, one room, so we either find something we both want to watch or do something else completely..

To be absolutely frank, we were drifting further and further apart ( nothing acrimonious simply different lives ) until we started motor homing..
We are closer now than we have been for donkeys years !
 
My Princess and I LOVE being on the road together, slowly meandering here and there... and we never get in each other's way.

We have the perfect system.

We each go in our own vans. (y)

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JJ said:
My Princess and I LOVE being on the road together, slowly meandering here and there... and we never get in each other's way.

We have the perfect system.

We each go in our own vans. (y)

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I love that :LOL: I do think more marriages would go the distance if couples had separate houses. Having said that we've been together 40 odd years.....I'm very tolerant BTW :D:D
 
Biggest source of contention between Swmbo and I when we are away is when it's time to come home...

I always want to squeeze "just another night" whereas after a month away she wants to do things like was the dogs bedding which she claims is harder to do when away than at home. In fairness, many commercial machines on sites do prohibit the washing of pet bedding.

But I'd just put up with the smell (from dogs not Swmbo :D2) and stay away longer

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Abacist said:
You need hobbies, chores and sport and obviously some money to help enjoy them all.
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I totally agree!! You need to have a "busy mind" and to do things that you always promised you would when you had more time.

It is good to have joint interests but also important to have things that you do as an individual. I have seen so many widowed survivors of a devoted couple go to pieces as everything they did they did together. :cry::cry::cry: That doesn't mean you don't discuss your non-shared interests or go to shows, exhibitions and the like together. I do go to model engineering shows (although he doesn't often come to textile art shows) and we approach problems differently so can sometimes see a solutions the other doesn't.

I do get annoyed when my tools and equipment go missing though :)
 
My wife like the motorhome but has no interest in anything we see, or pass, or a view, nothing. I've actually driven from the Uk to home here in Spain & had more conversation when paying for fuel.:D

We actually converse more when she is away.lol
 
Madeinengland said:
I love that :LOL: I do think more marriages would go the distance if couples had separate houses. Having said that we've been together 40 odd years.....I'm very tolerant BTW :D:D
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We live in separate houses and even in different cities, (but not different countries JJ!) and it works well!! We both love the van and enjoy longish trips, this year we will do 2 months in the autumn. That should be a good test.
 
Foxy1956 said:
Never go to sleep on an argument. I learnt that years ago. "Sorry," is only four letters, but can be the hardest word to say especially in a van and even more especially when you're in the wrong and won't admit it. I've been there and there is nothing to beat the healing of a hurt relationship.
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No stay awake and plot your revenge :rolleyes:
 
Usually we find it can get heated and blow up by about day 5 as we are used to having a lot of space from each other at home-despite the fact that neither of us go out to work.
Then it all calms down again and we live in bliss for the remaining 5-6 weeks.
 

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