Overly cautious ? (covid)

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John Timberlake

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Hi FUNsters,

I'd appeciate your views on this. My partner insists on (unnecessarily) collecting her grandkids from school every Wed and spending the afternoon with them (we're in Belgium and schools are open). For me, she could be infected through this, and I'm reluctant to basically shoot off in the motorhome with her straight after - I'd prefer to wait 5 days and see if she shows any symtoms...... but this is a weekly affair so I'm snookered.....

She's in an at-risk category (65+, cancer, now in remission), I'm 61, but allowing for my bodily abuse over the last 50 years, I don't really want to get it.... otherwise we're in good shape, hiking 50 miles a week.

Of Irish descent, I'm surprisingly hesitant...... just go for it and devil takes the hindmost.... or follow my feelings. Stay at home, save the MH, and save wives. 😀

Just to add, I'm 'taking a pause' workwise, for at least 6 months, so now is the time, despite the restrictions, to make the most of that time.....
 
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It’s tough, but I’m with you. Although we are in a bubble with one set of children and grandchildren we are not meeting them right now. Being ultra-cautious? Maybe, but can you be too cautious?
We miss all our family but for the moment Zoom will have to do.
 
Hi John, As has previously been mentioned on other threads it’s all about risk assessment. We unfortunately made the decision to still meet up with our grandkids on Xmas day with my wife’s parents. My daughter and partner came down with the virus within days and my father in law has just passed away in hospital last Thursday.
I post this after much thought because it’s important that others can see that it’s a bloody awful virus and need to be vigilant at all times.
Ray
 
The incubation period for COVID-19, which is the time between exposure to the virus and symptom onset, is on average 5-6 days, but can be as long as 14 days. So that 5 days you want to wait, should be 14.
 
Is the Belgian health service getting overwhelmed
are infections increasing?
Are you at risk or any one you know?
If your answer to any of the above
is yes
You know the answer your shelf
Good luck witch ever way you go
Bill
 
John Timberlake said:
Hi FUNsters,

I'd appeciate your views on this. My partner insists on (unnecessarily) collecting her grandkids from school every Wed and spending the afternoon with them (we're in Belgium and schools are open). For me, she could be infected through this, and I'm reluctant to basically shoot off in the motorhome with her straight after - I'd prefer to wait 5 days and see if she shows any symtoms...... but this is a weekly affair so I'm snookered.....

She's in an at-risk category (65+, cancer, now in remission), I'm 61, but allowing for my bodily abuse over the last 50 years, I don't really want to get it.... otherwise we're in good shape, hiking 50 miles a week.

Of Irish descent, I'm surprisingly hesitant...... just go for it and devil takes the hindmost.... or follow my feelings. Stay at home, save the MH, and save wives. 😀

Just to add, I'm 'taking a pause' workwise, for at least 6 months, so now is the time, despite the restrictions, to make the most of that time.....
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You are not being overly cautious. I'd say that your partner is being reckless, putting both of you at risk.
 
The only way to ensure you don’t get Covid is to keep away from all people.

It ain’t rocket science,is it.

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Raybreck said:
Hi John, As has previously been mentioned on other threads it’s all about risk assessment. We unfortunately made the decision to still meet up with our grandkids on Xmas day with my wife’s parents. My daughter and partner came down with the virus within days and my father in law has just passed away in hospital last Thursday.
I post this after much thought because it’s important that others can see that it’s a bloody awful virus and need to be vigilant at all times.
Ray
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You know the answer yourself don't you
 
Still going out for exercise, shop as little as possible at quiet times and not mixing with anyone else except the boss.
Would love to break bread with the family here and in Devon but will wait a little longer.

Vaccine just around the corner, why take the risk?

Stay safe :drinks:
 
I've just stopped my one day per fortnight looking after my 2-yr old grandson whose mum is a primary school teacher. The risk is low but I'm more worried than I've ever been. I'm 66, mr reckless just turned 70.

I used to think if I got covid I'd be unwell for a couple of weeks and that would be it. I've realised that's a ridiculous assumption and I'm not prepared to risk it. Hopefully it won't be too much longer before infection rates start falling and we can resume some of our activities.

Karen
 
We totally cancelled our family Christmas.

With daughter and S-i-L both being teachers, grandson in 6th Form and grand-daughter at Uni we decided not to take the risk, although we missed them.

So far we are still here!

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Rosemary1 said:
Could your wife just miss a week with the children?
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I agree with everyone above... having come so far why risk it now. But I fully understand. I miss my grandaughter like crazy. :( Now over 12months since I held her.

However, if you can't solve the dilemna, Rosemary has an idea which would REDUCE your risk and perhaps you could compromise on every other week??
 
reckless said:
I've just stopped my one day per fortnight looking after my 2-yr old grandson whose mum is a primary school teacher. The risk is low but I'm more worried than I've ever been. I'm 66, mr reckless just turned 70.

I used to think if I got covid I'd be unwell for a couple of weeks and that would be it. I've realised that's a ridiculous assumption and I'm not prepared to risk it. Hopefully it won't be too much longer before infection rates start falling and we can resume some of our activities.

Karen
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Very wise. I was unwell for a couple of weeks and 2 months to get over it after a short time in hospital. I consider myself v lucky. We both suspect my wife contracted it from the hospital after a post eye op check up.
 
my son and his wife suggested we shouldn’t have our two granddaughters as we usually do for two days a week!They said that as both the girls go to nursery they could possibly pick up COVID there and pass it on to us!They had an email yesterday to say one of the assistants at nursery has gone down with COVID!!We are now praying that none of them go down with it now!We have been happy to have them and assumed that they been younger would be safe but a Dr on tv tonight was saying they are seeing a lot younger patients with this new variant.Let’s all hope we get out of this mess ASAP!
 
I can see both sides,
You are worried about what might be if the wife gets infected
You're wife is worried about what has been and taking every chance to spend time with the grand kids, having faced up to her own mortality and knowing that the future is not yet written. Live for today attitude

Neither of you are wrong, but you need to be honest with each other

We had similar discussions years back when I nearly died and our world changed in an instant due to a drunk driver. I was getting upset about being treated like I was fragile and Brenda was terrified about the unknown risks that the future holds

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Your wife is reckless but the responsibility lies with your children, they should not let your wife do it to protect you and your wife form this awful virus, sorry to be blunt but how will the grandkids feel if their grandparents died because of them...

strange times we live in and it’s not long really before we come out the other side...
 
The problem is not that kids will catch it, because it rarely affects them very much even if they do. The problem is that if they do have it they can very easily pass it on to others they come into contact with, and that is especially so with this new variant. Probably no problem at all if it is another kid. Bigger problem if it is one or more of their parents. But major problem, with likely hospital visit, if they pass it on to the grandparents.

The reason they have closed most schools is because they were acting as super spreaders of the disease.

I agree with Just smiffy that the parents need to make sure that they are not putting the grandparents at risk.
 
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Raybreck said:
Hi John, As has previously been mentioned on other threads it’s all about risk assessment. We unfortunately made the decision to still meet up with our grandkids on Xmas day with my wife’s parents. My daughter and partner came down with the virus within days and my father in law has just passed away in hospital last Thursday.
I post this after much thought because it’s important that others can see that it’s a bloody awful virus and need to be vigilant at all times.
Ray
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This must have taken a huge amount of courage to write and post . I am so sorry .
 
Just smiffy said:
responsibility lies with your children, they should not let your wife do it to protect you and your wife
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Why. Would you like your kids (if you have any) tell you what to do and who you can see?
They, as a couple need to decide if they wish to see the kids and grandkids, not be told what to do by their children.

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Raybreck said:
Hi John, As has previously been mentioned on other threads it’s all about risk assessment. We unfortunately made the decision to still meet up with our grandkids on Xmas day with my wife’s parents. My daughter and partner came down with the virus within days and my father in law has just passed away in hospital last Thursday.
I post this after much thought because it’s important that others can see that it’s a bloody awful virus and need to be vigilant at all times.
Ray
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Sorry to hear your sad news..but agree we can't be too careful..I have been in direct contact with Covid on 3 occasions now in a care home setting....the first 2 times we managed to contain it and no staff infection..this 3rd time 11 staff and 8 residents..5 resident deaths..2 staff very poorly but recovering sadly one staff member lives with her mother who is now very poorly...
Today all our residents and working staff have all tested negative..so vaccinations can start shortly..please be extra careful we are at the beginning of the end of this awful time..
 
robrace said:
my son and his wife suggested we shouldn’t have our two granddaughters as we usually do for two days a week!They said that as both the girls go to nursery they could possibly pick up COVID there and pass it on to us!They had an email yesterday to say one of the assistants at nursery has gone down with COVID!!We are now praying that none of them go down with it now!We have been happy to have them and assumed that they been younger would be safe but a Dr on tv tonight was saying they are seeing a lot younger patients with this new variant.Let’s all hope we get out of this mess ASAP!
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Unfortunately they also reported that they are getting more patients within the lower age groups into hospital with covid so it's no longer mostly the older ones who are suffering badly.

Landy Andy said:
Why. Would you like your kids (if you have any) tell you what to do and who you can see?
They, as a couple need to decide if they wish to see the kids and grandkids, not be told what to do by their children.
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Seeing as the grandchildren are the responsibility of their own parents (ie their children) then they have every right to say no to allowing grandparents to see them, for whatever reason, the grandparents have no legal right to insist on seeing them whatsoever. In this instance it sounds like the kiddies parents may have to do it as I doubt the OP's partner will willingly do so.
 
I'm the same age as you John Timberlake
I have had two work colleagues, both younger than us, who died from COVID 19, one right at the beginning, one a couple of months later.
Today our next door neighbour, who is only 10 years older than us died of COVID 19

If you want to live until the summer and get the immunisation when offered then I'm afraid I'd lay down the law with the wife, and if that means you are confined to the motorhome for the next 3-5 months, then so be it.

Have you ever noticed in war cemeteries the number of soldiers that died in the last few months of the war, having survived several years on the front line. You really don't want to be one of those grave stones.
 
She needs to stop being so selfish. Sorry to be blunt but I'm sure if she contracted and passed it to you then lost you she'd think 1 missed week would be worth it
 
Landy Andy said:
Why. Would you like your kids (if you have any) tell you what to do and who you can see?
They, as a couple need to decide if they wish to see the kids and grandkids, not be told what to do by their children.
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I brought my kids up to have their own opinions and confidence to be able to put their views across to anyone regardless if they had draconian parents, fortunately they do not.... 😊

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