14 year daughter doesn't want to come on next MH holiday :-(

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  1. Spidey

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    :(It is so sad, but our youngest daughter wants to stay home with 21 year old while we go to the isle of wight for 5 nights:( . She gets fed up with the walking and sight seeing etc! So do we let her stay at home? She will be with her big sister. When i was 14 going away on holiday was exciting, but must admit only happened once a year. We do go away a lot more than my parents. She said she def wants to come to Europe with us though. I suppose it would be easier on our own, no wingy teen to sort out. I remember they were so excited about every holiday, now they only want to come on the good ones! I dread mentioning i have booked a weekend away as i get 'haven't we just been away?' I try to ensure that we don't clash with any friend things she has planned and don't go away two weekends in a row or if she has a large project due. I suppose this is normal! Such a sad day :(
     
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    Take 'em skiing, they will want to keep coming into their forties!:)
     
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    Going without a teenager in tow - liberating!!!!!
     
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    Sorry but dont blame her...take her to Italy:)
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    no IOW, no Europe, end of story she is too young to be left on her own and older daughter cannot watch her 24/7
     
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    Our 14 year old often doesn't come with us. He normally takes the opportunity to go and stay with Grandma.

    Strangely enough he's coming to Italy though.
     
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  7. Spidey

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    Yes i know we were always of the thinking if you want the good foreign holidays you have to do the local ones. Our eldest daughter had to come with us as all UK holidays were based around work experience for her. She studying to be a vet and they wanted weeks and weeks of work experience. She is going to be home revising all the time. Youngest is probably more responsible about locking doors etc. Its to hard for them to go anywhere as we live in a village with terrible bus service:)

    Funny enough the eldest is coming to Europe in the summer and managed 3 weeks in florida last year, mmmm. :)
     
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    We did't take ours this year got too fed-up last year paid quite a bit (catered chalet)they couldn't be bothered to get up when it snowed/was too cold/not a nice day etc. This year we went with friends great time. There is a time you wish your kids would come with you there can also come a time where you like their company but sometimes enjoy something more without them (and it's OK if they like somethings more without you!!!)
     
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    Really difficult dilemma but You know your children best and if you can trust them to be at home alone I would let her have her way and enjoy some special time alone yourselves. Alternatively bring along a friend for her so she has someone her own age to hang out with or get her to choose something to do if she comes with you. Most 14 year olds don't want long walks and sight seeing adventures with parents - she's just being a normal teenager like we once were.
     
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    Same happened with our kids and our narrowboat. Suddenly stuck with two unused bunks. But hey, kids grow up quickly, and if your not careful, you lose the point that at their age, you just wanted to do the same. Constraints of the time didn't let you, unfortunately. :(
     
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    Not surprising our youngest daughter spent a couple of years living on the Isle of Wight she thought it was the most boring place on earth, she now lives in Bangkok.
    We have friends on the island not far from us, but an expensive trip & boring.
    Go in September when Warners are doing the deals for the elderly you will be lucky to get out of 1st gear.:)
     
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    She discovered BOY'S......
     
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  13. Spidey

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    No not yet thank goodness :)
     
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    I used to trust 14 year old daughters until I had one of my own....:)
     
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    Dont you believe it. :LOL:
     
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    You have a daughter?? I thought you said you were insolvent?? :)
     
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    If you have had no problem`s with the 21 year old and can trust her...

    Why not go away and enjoy your new found freedom... (y)

    At 14, she is a young adult the way children have grown up so quick in the last 20 - 30 years...

    If things go wry, at least you can say you tried.... and will have to give serious thought to your hobby/pastime.. :(
     
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    My parents trusted me and I respected them for it and didn't abuse their trust either as I didn't want to upset them. I brought my 2 children up with the same principle and it paid off. I have 2 great 20+ kids who are my best friends and who we have mutual respect and trust in.
     
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    If it's any conciliation my wife doesn't want to come on holiday with me
     
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    ..........................................................Then send her to 'Mo's 21 Year Old Girl Minding Service' when next on holiday. Satisfaction guaranteed. Well, for Mo anyway. :)
     
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