Mixed Emotions

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  1. injebreck99

    injebreck99 Funster

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    Here we as sat on a CCC CS in mid Wales in the rain, on my 70th birdhday, then we get a message to say that my best friend of 40+ years, David, died last night from cancer aged 63, he had suffered for many months, so was not unexpected, just not yet.
    We cannot do anything if we return home early, but it has taken the shine off our jaunt through Wales, we will have to decide what to do when we don't feel so numb.
    I am reminded of the old saying again, live each day to the full.
     
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    Judge Mental Funster Deceased RIP

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    Get down the pub and celebrate his life....
     
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    Sad as it is try to think on the happy times you shared. No one can take your memories away though I know it doesn't help numb the situation.
     
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    remember him celebrate the long friendship and remember the absent friend with fondness a tear and a smile
    bill
     
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    My eldest brother died of cancer at the age of 63 fifteen years ago.
    I was 63 yesterday, your post brought back memories, must always make the most of things as you never know what's round the corner.
    Remember the good times you had together.
    Happy Birthday for today although I know it's a sad day.
     
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    Words can't say enough friends come in many forms and guises have a drink and remember the good times
     
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    Sorry for your loss.....agree with the others, raise a glass or two to a good friend, times shared, memories made, she'd a tear or two as well.
     
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    My husband's best friend died a couple of months ago at the age of 54. He was diagnosed with cancer on Christmas eve and died on Good Friday... so quickly - it was shocking. He and his partner had plans to buy a motorhome and tour Devon - they never made it. That's been the main reason we decided to take the plunge now rather than wait till retirement. We think of him a lot as I'm sure you will of your friend.
     
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    Thank you everybody for your support and sympathy, we will endeavour to sort things out tomorrow after a wee dram or two.
     
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    it is time to savour life and celebrate his life, for him the pain is over. Enjoy your trip for him. Our thoughts are with you.
     
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    Remember the good times..... your friend is with you every day in your memories so raise a glass and say "thanks for the good times".

    I've nursed family members through terminal cancer and the one who die quickly are the lucky ones in my experience.
     
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    I lost a very dear friend the year before last and she was in her late fifties and far too young to die. She is missed every minute of every day.

    The older we all get the more commonplace is this tale of woe and sorrow. If by chance I should go soon, and many of you will be amongst my friends, please don't let my passing ruin your holiday, please raise a glass and say I'm glad I knew him for sure as eggs is eggs my life has been richer for knowing all of you........Griff
     
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    So sorry for you, but as above, remember the good times and only come back if you know for sure you can do something practical when you are home, there probably isn't much that can be done

    Sad news on your birthday, but have one of those drams to the pair of you (y)
     
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    duplicate post sorry
     
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    Maybe your friend would remind you of that, and tell you to carry on with your trip until there's a practical reason to return home?

    My sympathies - my step dad was in his 60s when he died from cancer only 18 months after he and my Mum got married. My Mum died of the same type of cancer only 7 months after he did. Before diagnosis they were both healthy active people - make the best of the time you have.
     
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    I am sorry about your news.

    I lost a lovely friend and colleague about 18 months ago who was only 49.

    Lovely girl she was.

    RIP Sue.
     

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