Struggling

[Paul and Kate]

Well
We lost our boy Dave the dog

8 weeks ago.
He was the reason we took up motorhoming.
Weve really struggled to get back out in the van without the dog.
We are carrying on and working through the dark times.
Motorhome fun is keeping us going @Jim
It's hard and we are struggling to cope.
Being away in the van gives us a break but it just keeps us of our boy.
I (paul) have never asked for support.
But we need it now......
We are struggling

 

[TheBig1]

it still breaks my heart remembering the dogs we have lost, even years on.. the only thing that helps is we rescued more staffies and gave them the love we still have. Dave would not want you to be sad

 

[wiljoy]

We know exactly what you're going through. We lost ours and now dog sit for a few relatives. It certainly helps but will NEVER be a replacement for our own dogs.
We have a couple staying at the moment. Stay strong and replace asap if you feel it's necessary.

 

[irnbru]

I can feel your pain. Next month will be Blues 1st anniversary and boy oh boy I sure miss him everyday. Try thinking of the fun times and the love you had between you. It helps for me but losing a family member is hard and that's what our pets are to us. FAMILY. Sending you both a HUG

 

[ambulancekidd]

I (paul) have never asked for support.
But we need it now......
We are struggling

Hi Paul.

I'm feeling your pain, we lost one of our border collies about 6 months ago & no matter how many pets we have losing them is like losing a limb.
I suppose the only thing to do is let time heal those wounds to the best of your ability & reflect on the wonder which dogs fill our lives with, their personality shines through so much.
Try to focus on the positive thoughts of Dave & have a think of how he looked upon his life, it really does help.

Robert.

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[ianthebuilder]

When I lost ‘ Boots’. My German Shepard, my best mate for 11 years,, I just spoke about him, a lot, had lots of pictures of him, and thought about him all the time,, still do, but not so much!! It’s hard I know, but think of him fondly and all the times he made you mad, or laugh!!

Just takes time!! Good luck,,, but don’t let it stop you getting about in the Motorhome,,,,

Ps,,,, Great name,,, he looked like a Dave!!

 

[WESTY66]

Noooooo, oh I’m so sorry, I feel your pain, we have said goodbye to a few over the years. We had a break for a fair few years then 7 years ago we took a 4 yr old rescue Bulldog. (That’s her in my avatar) she’s 10 and a half now and failing health and it’s going to put us the same way as you but we have had happy times and we take solace in the fact we’ve took her out of rescue and give her a good home. Take care and remember the good times and the good life you shared with him.

 

[Bognor Saint]

I can't say I want to be in your position but I know I will be again one day.
We've been through it before and know how you feel. You'll never forget him and neither will you want to.

 

[Jaws]

I still miss each and every oneof the dogs we have had over the 45 years we have been wed.. Each time a lost a bit of me when they went to the big kennel
Which is why I fought against having another for 7 years, but eventually Woman won ( as women do) and we have Dillon
He is the cutest move loving dog we have ever had the pleasure to keep
I know it is morbid but I some times think I wanna go before him, cos it will kill me to lose him any way

 

[Coastal Cruiser.]

It’s the worst feeling ever loosing a pet, unfortunately I have two that are getting ever nearer that time and I am dreading it

But it is better to know you gave him a good life and in time you might want another.

Best of luck.

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[Larrynwin]

So sad for you, we have shed many tears in the past for our faithful loving friends and fully empathise. Stay strong and remember the good times and the love .

 

[Podney]

Sorry for your loss. Try to focus on the good times,the good memories.
The future will be good!

 

[Eggs]

Sad times, Paul. I lost two of my Spaniels within a few months last year, this is the longest period I've been without a dog for 30 years. I'm on the look out for a new pup right now. The van, both my work van and motor home feel very empty with no dog about.

 

[Paul and Kate]

good times

 

[Blue Knight]

How very sad. We were both gutted when we lost our last two - the house was a lonely place.

He was a very handsome boy

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[old-mo]

I feel for you Paul & Kate.....

The love you gave Dave shows no ends and still does..

I know you said you would not.. (I think I remember you saying that.).... but I honestly think you should get another one.....It will never replace Dave but after a while the heartache will ease..

I know it will never replace Dave, but may soften the heartache a little, and I`m sure if Dave could.... he would say go on Dad it will be the best for both of you...

We had a young family to view this place this afternoon, they had four children and,,,, (So they Said). we love it here after living in the middle of Birmingham.... If we were to buy it would you leave Daisy, she had been romping and chasing the kids all over the field... Quick as a flash..... "NO", say`s me ...

Not the same, but
In the shortish time we have had her and although she is a pain in the arse sometimes..... I know where you are both coming from...

Listen to your adopted Dad.... and give it some thought please, Son & Daughter..

 

[Anthea M]

Thoughts are with you both at this sad time.
Dave had a wonderful life with you and you hold on to those happy memories .

 

[TheDogMan]

Well
We lost our boy Dave the dog
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8 weeks ago.
He was the reason we took up motorhoming.
Weve really struggled to get back out in the van without the dog.
We are carrying on and working through the dark times.
Motorhome fun is keeping us going @Jim
It's hard and we are struggling to cope.
Being away in the van gives us a break but it just keeps us of our boy.
I (paul) have never asked for support.
But we need it now......
We are struggling

So sad, when we lose a dog we have lost one of our children, this is cushioned a little by the rest of dog family, it can really can take a while to move on, good luck trying to get over it

 

[DavidG58]

Evening Paul

We are at virtually the same stage of getting over the loss of our best mates

we regularly cry for no obvious reason, we have already been away without Lola, it hurt, but we purposefully went to a favourite place for all three of us and revisited some walks we did together, it was odd, did it help, not sure really

next week we head back to Scotland where we had many, many happy days together, we intend to revisit and complete some unfinished walks, in her later years Lola couldn't do long walks, we started and turned back on a few, we intend to finish them for her and with her in our minds

we will cry some more, it will hurt some more, but we also smile at a load of the things we did and she did with us at home and away in the MH

I am not looking forward to Chester, Lola was well know to many, there will be some who don't know she is gone and might ask how she is, even those that know will ask how we are and we will probably cry, I am now just typing about the thought of it

we always know this will happen, we love the time together, we miss the times together, but we will smile in time, we have so many lovely memories and virtually no bad ones, they will win through for us and they will for you

Motorhoming will be different going forward, but that is all, it will be alright xx

 

[aztecannie]

Talk about him together and that will keep him with you. Sending hugs ......

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[Duck Truck]

hiya mate
its part of the don side of having fantastic times with your pooch
GET another it helps massively

 

[andy63]

sorry to read your post.. its so sad , but lots of good points made by people who have been in a similar position , and have pointed out that the good memories will win through and the hurt will ease with time..
good luck
Andy

 

[Rob and Val]

No matter how many years we get to share with our dogs, it’s never enough. So sorry for your loss. A beloved pet is never gone; Dave will have a place in your hearts forever. Yes, it will be hard but he would hate for you to stay at home feeling sad; Dave would want you to get out in the motorhome.

The following was written in 1981 by David Harkins. I'm not sure if he was referring to a person or a pet but I feel that the sentiments are the same: -

He Is Gone
You can shed tears that he is gone
Or you can smile because he has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what he would want:
Smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

 

[maison]

I know exactly how you feel. Been there, done that and, more importantly am facing the same dilemma within the next few months.

Best wishes.

 

[bobandjanie]

It's always a difficult time, you just have to remember how much love and happiness he gave you.
We can never replace our faithful hounds or cats, but being animal lovers there are many out there that are looking for loving homes.
Our dog we have now is 9 + and we re homed her at just over 10 months.

I know she is not a proper dog like our others , but we always feel when walking, we shouldn't be there without a dog. Bob and Janie.

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[Dognewf]

its always a sad time and you have my sympathy, but honestly, the best thing to do is to fill the space with a new pup. i am trying to avoid it again by spacing ages out, 7, 3 and 3 months. and one a bit older

 

[cliffanger]

We lost our Ginny 6 years ago, and still miss her very much. She went everywhere with us for 14 years, and soon after she died, we went on a pre booked week to Yorkshire without her. It was horrible, no spaniel to walk with, to throw a ball for, to accept admiring comments for, (we loved it, she completely ignored it - the only people she loved and responded to were children - probably knew they were the only ones who would never get fed up of throwing a ball....)

As the weeks and months went on, although we still missed her desperately, the caravanning got easier - no awning to put up - she always slept in the awning, so we didn't have to put it up any more. No early morning wake up calls to take her out to do her business.

Even though it got easier, I couldn't be happy in the caravan without her, so within 2 months we sold the caravan and bought the motorhome.

We did different things, and over the years have got used to not having her, and I have to say - I don't miss the infernal balls of hair. Everywhere.

But we still miss her, and always will.

It won't happen yet, but in time you'll remember the beautiful life you gave Dave, and the sadness will become less raw.

We've decided not to replace Ginny, our reasons being:

a) life is less of a tie without a dog,
b) Most vets are in league with pet insurers and they've worked out how to take advantage of the love pet owners have for their animals to make shed loads of money,
c) we could never find another one like our 'Hooligan in Skirts'...

It will get easier, but you'll never forget him. xx

 

[Parrot Face]

A dreadful time and I sincerely hope the pain eases. We lost many dogs over the years but our last one Pickles was the hardest. He died about 5 years ago. We decided to do somethings we couldn't have done if we'd had him so we went on a 5 month tour of Australia and NZ. We then came home and went to Spain for 3 months. When in Javea for a 5 week period we went to the nearby dogs home every day and walked their dogs for a good2 hours. That helped but when we came home we decided we couldn't live without a dog. So eventually got a very beautiful Welsh Terrier that loves the motorhome and our trips. He's now 3 years old and gets me out for at least 2 hours a day. I meet and talk to loads of people and now feel a lot happier.

 

[tinks703]

In our kitchen is a 3'x2' picture frame, in it are photos of our 10 dogs we have had through our lives. They remind us of the times we have had with them. From daft as a scuttle springer spaniels to a ten year old X bread. They are there just like our daughters photos because they are our family!!!

 

[irnbru]

I'm feeling it right now as mum always bought me a mothers day card from Blue since i was mum to him but I'm cardless today.

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