INTERNET DATING, or not !! (1 Viewer)

[wigster]

Got my second divorce about 2 months ago , been apart maybe 14 years .

Not a dating site as such but i spoke to the lady im with now on yahoo chat , now defunct , been with her for 11 or 12 years.

Everyone telling me you should get Married . Again Oh Please!, anyways i love her, and to the op i say go for it but with shields up scottie

 

[magicsurfbus]

My Mum was 70 when my Dad died, and at the time she resigned herself to just being a mother and a grandmother but never again a wife. Six years later she'd re-married a gentleman ten years her junior whom she'd met via a local gardening club. We were all delighted for her. Within three years unexpected illness took both of them, which was tragic on so many levels, but she'd made the most of what she'd had during both marriages - she didn't just give up. If it showed me anything it's that you only get one crack at life and you never know what's round the corner, good or bad, so make of it what you can. My missus is under strict orders to find a replacement should I be the first to pop off - she's a gregarious lively lady who loves the company of others, and it would be a huge shame for her to go into old age alone. If you feel the need for company go and find it by whatever means suit you best - there'll be somebody out there thinking along the same lines.

 

[Techno]

On the other hand I also parted ways with the first wife using quickie divorce dot com
Isn't the WWW wonderful

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[reckless]

As @laird of Dunstan says dancing is a great way to meet people, we started out Jiving and now mainly do Lindy Hop,

Also very cheap compared to online dating and it gives you a social life.
Although we have been happily married for 38 years it's changed our social life, well worth giving it a try.

Modern jive (ceroc) is easy, fun and great for fitness. I used to go 3 times a week then started ballroom classes with a guy I became friends with (he went on to meet his wife at a dance).

When I met Brian he joined me and really enjoyed it, although it's more technical than ceroc. We can now do most of the social dances to an OK standard and we've found a couple of local weekday tea dances.

As an older male you'd be made very welcome, there's normally an excess of female dancers. Of course that first step is daunting but as Lenny HB says, it would transform your social life. Did it for me.

Karen

 

[Dogsense]

There are so many ways to meet with the opposition sex.
After my marriage end with a divorce, I met, on a solo (not MH) week holiday in Tenerife, a women from Scotland and that end with 9 years of relationship.
My next relationship of 4.5 years, wich SADLY stopped last December, started with a meeting through an Internet dating.

The conncloution is that any way you choose, go for it! Nothing wrong with Internet dating too.

 

[laird of Dunstan]

Go for it, I am married, but lonely, My wife is an Aspie and hates company of any type and I live a quiet life with her. I bought the motorhome to get out and see what I want to see at the same time she is with me and still at home at the same time. I go to rallies but she is never seen out when there. I would love to meet more people and women especially. Things get quite dire sometimes as I want somebody around me that actually likes me but do not get it.. You also need company, loneliness is catch 22 situation you NEED to break the ring.

@GWAYGWAY
A great way to meet people socially is called"Meet ups",they are groups that are held in almost every area in the UK ,i used to go to the saturday coffee mornings in peterborough and out to the curry nights etc ,they are easy to find if you google "Meet ups" ,there are others in a similar situation to yourself and enjoy these groups,they have a wide variety of interests ,you name it and theres a group meeting that caters for it

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[maz]

I met 'mr maz', David, on a free Internet dating site - Plenty of Fish. Never took the site very seriously as there are a load of nutters on there as well as one or two decent people. Anyway, we met up for lunch and just hit it off instantly - been together ever since.

Before meeting David I'd been solo full timing for 3 years. Not the easiest of existences but I always enjoyed the Fun meets and made some good friends along the way. David used to live on a boat full time so he was used to a similar sort of lifestyle. Although I was quite happy on my own, life is much more enjoyable with a partner.

So I'd say go for it. Internet dating is a way of meeting people that otherwise you'd never know were out there. And one of them might just be the one for you. Good luck!

 

[Rob and Val]

We had an elderly neighbour (he was 93 when he died in April) who was very lonely. His wife had a stroke and was incapacitated for 15 years before her death so he didn't leave the house much. About 4 years after her death he decided that he would like to have a female companion. We put together an advert for him (he refused to give his age, so we just said that he was retired) and placed it in 'Yours' magazine. About 2 months later he received over 60 replies! Unfortunately, he became ill shortly afterwards and then virtually housebound so, although he spoke to some of the women on the telephone, he never got to meet any of them before he died.

The point I'm trying to make is that there are a lot of lovely ladies 'out there' but they are not going to just turn up on your doorstep - you've got to put yourself 'out there'. Join a local club, join several clubs, put an ad in a magazine or newspaper, try Internet dating etc etc. Even if you don't meet 'the one' you will make new friends and maybe one of those new friends will introduce you to one of their female friends/sisters/cousins etc.

My niece tried Internet dating and met some terrible men! (The phrase, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your handsome prince" springs to mind!) However, she didn't give up and after a year of disappointments she then met her current partner and she has been with him for two years.

Go for it, Norman .... she's out there somewhere!

 

[hilldweller]

Especially for Tucano... (hope it works)

http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&cd=1&rct=j&q=west side story scene 8 maria meets &ved=0ahUKEwjyq_OA_aXNAhUKIMAKHSqRA6gQtwIIGjAA&url=http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FXNZFe63brY&usg=AFQjCNFRJc4N5p5OX50vQMnh2_P3mdMmdw


Oh I love soppy stuff

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[hilldweller]

As an older male you'd be made very welcome, there's normally an excess of female dancers.
Karen

That reminds me of an aging uncle. Wife died. He was in good shape for his age and took to cruises. Any man who can walk on a cruise ship is a hot target for women so it seems.

Didn't bring much happiness, cancer got him soon enough.

 

[Viennese]

Until I met my partner of 11 years, my longest relationship was 4 years. I met him via the Internet and he was my 55th date! It took me a long time to find him, but luckily I did. Along the way I met all those guys, some of whom were very nice, others who had serious problems, and some of whom could not even be considered for lots of different reasons. My partner & I do not live together, which is one of the reasons why we both believe it is so successful! We are a couple but still have our own lives too and enjoy each other's company plus our own independence too, so we think we have found the perfect formula for us!.

 

[Snowbird]

That reminds me of an aging uncle. Wife died. He was in good shape for his age and took to cruises. Any man who can walk on a cruise ship is a hot target for women so it seems.

Didn't bring much happiness, cancer got him soon enough.

A good mate of mine was a fireman officer on cruise ships out of Miami. He confirmed my suspicions that there were far more predatory females than predatory males over a certain age.

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[Don Quixote]

Norman, You have nothing to lose and a hell of a lot to gain. Go for it and enjoy.

 

[movan]

@TUCANO what area do you live in? Come along to some of the meets we go to ... loads of female and male solos. Not saying they want a relationship but the friendship and laughter is full to brimming. You have to let us know though. We won't impose ourselves on you in case you want solitude.

 

[scotzsue]

I met John through the internet, site no longer in existance. Was not looking for a relationship other than friendship, emailed for 6 months before we met, have been together for 17 years. Met because of our interest in motorbikes. I hope you find someone to share your life and interests with. Don't reject a 'living together apart' relationship, it can be hard to get used to living with someone after being on your own for while. Having your own space can be beneficial.

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[TUCANO]

Working at the moment so can't reply to all but I appreciate all the replies to date, I have struck a chord here. I live in the York area and will be attending the Rufforth meet although day visiting by car.
Thank you all, a great bunch of people.

 

[movan]

Working at the moment so can't reply to all but I appreciate all the replies to date, I have struck a chord here. I live in the York area and will be attending the Rufforth meet although day visiting by car.
Thank you all, a great bunch of people.

If you go to York meet come over to us all and introduce yourself.

 

[TUCANO]

I most certainly will, I have already volunteered my services.

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[Viennese]

No. Fate has got you where you are.

"I am the master of my fate; / I am the captain of my soul."
William Ernest Henley (1849–1903)

 

[Movinon]

In case you're not aware of them there are clubs for single people who like camping in some form. At least they share a common interest.
http://www.thephoenixcampingclub.co.uk/
http://newcompanions.org.uk.gridhosted.co.uk/

 

[hilldweller]

"I am the master of my fate; / I am the captain of my soul."
William Ernest Henley (1849–1903)

Clearly in your case....

>> he was my 55th date!

My medium tells me Messalina is angling for a match when you arrive in Elysium.

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[hilldweller]

will be attending the Rufforth meet

A Tucano visiting Rufforth. That will be a first.

Are you a flying person ?

 

[ambulancekidd]

Hazel & I met online. 14yrs later we're still going strong. People's views of internet dating have changed or should I say have been changed. The odd thing is that we met each other just after giving up & settling into the single life. We only intended to chat but something clicked. There were many non starters for me before Hazel & some of them I had met in more "normal" ways of meeting but an open mind is half the battle. Oh & take your time, don't rush out thinking that every meeting will be wonderful & forever, life can be like that but just use your own judgement, its served you well so far.

Good luck...Robert & Hazel.

 

[Viennese]

Well

A Tucano visiting Rufforth. That will be a first.

Are you a flying person ?

Well his previous avatar, if I remember well, was a crashed Catalina, so probably yes. I, of course identified it as such...)

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[Viennese]

Clearly in your case....

>> he was my 55th date!

My medium tells me Messalina is angling for a match when you arrive in Elysium.

I'm not sure I like the implication of that Brian - she had such a reputation for promiscuity. As a convent educated girl I always behaved quite properly, despite what you may think. Most of my dates, much to their disappointment, were abandoned very quickly, (leaving them confused and broken-hearted of course...)
And it's over 40 years since I went on a cruise...

 

[deleted-member02]

I think you'd get along fine on a dating website, you're familiar with forums, happy to chat online and still have a zest for life.
I suspect your interest in travelling is very appealing and certainly a good source of conversation.... another option would be to holiday in Benidorm - that's certainly a very good way to meet people

 

[hilldweller]

As a convent educated girl I always behaved quite properly...

But of course.

54 times.

I read this on a fasting day and feel week and sad for those poor gentlemen. Rejection is hard for a man to take.

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[Puddleduck]

As it says in my sig....... better an "oops than a what if" I would look for a friend / travel companion and see what happens.

 

[Snowbird]

Look on the bright side, gone are the days when you had to save up all week to take the girl of your dreams out on a Saturday night. Hopefully they will now be self supporting .

 

[Viennese]

But of course.

54 times.

I read this on a fasting day and feel week and sad for those poor gentlemen. Rejection is hard for a man to take.

How would you know Brian??

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