“The wife”

[Rosie and David]

What is it with folks on the forum who refer to “The wife”? I can understand “The M25”, The Eiffel Tower” or “The Houses of Parliament “ but surely you have more of a personal affinity to “Your wife”? The person you have been married to for many years, or am I missing something.

 

[Chris]

I will ask the wife.

Not really thought about it before.

 

[Phill D]

Oh no another reason to be "offended"

 

[PeteH]

Ahh?---- SWMBO?. 'er Indoors? The missus? "Trouble and strife" even? Wahh lass?.

Or, just maybe, the Angel/devil to whom I have been married for some 56 years.? And who still can laugh at those who get upset by politically incorrect observations.

 

[Clickem]

My wife, of 48 years, does not like to be referred to as “ the wife”. I do sometimes refer to her, or introduce her, as “the management” or “my carer”. If I want to have the last word I say “yes dear”

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[Phill D]

Surely it's meant as a term of endearment

 

[Speve]

My wife isn’t offended why should you be?

 

[SuperMike]

Management or "This is my wife". Can't stand partner, in fact hate it with a vengeance.

 

[Rosie and David]

You see you just referred to her as “My wife”

 

[Langtoftlad]

Using "the" is bestowing title & status as in "The one & only"
Using "my" is possessive & could be considered derogatory or demeaning in our current enlightened times.

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[Rosie and David]

Don’t forget that most have names too!

 

[Gixer]

After working in South Wales and visiting clients at home, there was a lot of men who referred to their wives as 'The Wife' but also 'The Daughter' and even 'The Grand-daughter', my better half, love of my life, my angel [yes she's looking over my shoulder] would hurt me badly if I ever said 'The Wife' !!

 

[PeteH]

Don’t forget that most have names too!

Yes. Maureen, a lady of great courage and fortitude. Who's lifelong coping with disability makes me feel humbled.

 

[RowleyBirkinQC]

Don’t forget that most have names too!

Harridan?

 

[Mrsambulancekidd]

The trouble is the written term used does not always convey the affection used when it's spoken.
I don't really care what 'him indoors' calls me, it doesn't change the way he feels and if he's cheeky he just gets it back.

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[Pete5996]

Fear, mainly.....

 

[LesW]

... but, she is not any old wife, she is the wife.

 

[Helen Ariel]

I prefer partner but then that's why we had a civil partnership.

 

[carolyn]

I would object strongly to being called “the wife”. I think it sounds demeaning. I have no control over what Nick calls me when I’m not there, probably “nagging old witch” but that’s preferable because it involves a bit of thought. I wouldn’t dream of calling him “the husband”, I might say “my husband” but usually I call him Nick as that’s his name and I like it.

 

[JJ]

...but surely you have more of a personal affinity to “Your wife”? The person you have been married to for many years, or am I missing something.

Cripes... a sensitive Funster with some respect for women...

Praise be to the Gods of the Forums...


JJ

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[JJ]

Oh no another reason to be "offended"

Oh dear...

JJ

 

[Nirvanauk]

What is it with folks on the forum who refer to “The wife”? I can understand “The M25”, The Eiffel Tower” or “The Houses of Parliament “ but surely you have more of a personal affinity to “Your wife”? The person you have been married to for many years, or am I missing something.

I don’t really see what the issue here is?

 

[Stroppy Bird]

Don’t forget that most have names too!

I'd like to think that all of them have names

However, some people prefer to be totally anonymous on forums and don't use their real names in either their username or their posts.

 

[Phill D]

Oh dear...

JJ

Should I be Offended by that remark??

 

[Nasher]

I always call my girlfriends "The Current Wench"

Surely no one could be upset by that?

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[ivorantony]

I always introduce Monica as my Current wife, It keeps her on her toes,

 

[Minxy]

What is it with folks on the forum who refer to “The wife”? I can understand “The M25”, The Eiffel Tower” or “The Houses of Parliament “ but surely you have more of a personal affinity to “Your wife”? The person you have been married to for many years, or am I missing something.

Interesting ... I've not really thought about it, "my wife" is okay but I have to admit I don't particularly like "the wife" as it does come across as a bit demeaning however its all to do with context of what's being said/written I suppose. We also assume that "the wife" means that person's actual wife ... but who knows!

I would never refer to my husband as "the husband" however I do use "my hubby" or "hubby" rather than give his name, not because he'd be bothered at all but simply that in one single word it is clear who I'm talking about whereas if I say his name many wouldn't know who I was talking about, especially newbies.

 

[Bluemanc100]

Sue loved it when she was admitted to the military hospital (TPMH) in Cyprus for a procedure.. She had “Wife of Cpl Heywood” over her bed

 

[PaulyP]

I usually just use her first name “the”

 

[Coolcats]

I normally use my wife, but she is also my lover, friend confidant and much much more. I am a very very lucky person to have her in my life

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