Phobia getting in the way of life

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  1. tofo

    tofo Funster

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    Just been reading on facebook local to me page

    I only read but don't post

    Now I'm not good well terrified by some dogs
    Rottweilers husky type Alsatians and staffies
    And generally large dogs but Labradors
    Are not so much of a problem just very cautious

    It goes right back to my child hood
    any dog Barking near me sets me off

    Well a person a couple of miles away near the park we walk
    Our little buddy( avatar dog) has two dogs one an Alsatian
    And one a husky type dog

    I heard that they had attacked a dog
    when they got out a few months back
    Two days this last week they have got out

    Once on the estate we live on
    Once they strolled around by the park
    Apparently trying to get at a couples dogs
    Through their fences and gates
    Now I know there are keyboard warriors
    Writing rubbish but generally this paticuler page
    Is honest stuff and helpful

    Now I'm worried and my fear is getting the better of me
    I can't help it
    I've had help for it but a few weeks back
    I had a couple of clashes one after the other on the same day

    Strange thing is all of these dogs don't concern me as much
    when they are leaded

    In fact one Alsatian I can stroke while it's off lead
    But if it barks I'm off

    I hate feeling like it
    All I've been taught about it
    Has failed me to the point of worrying
    Of going out for a walk

    Sorry folks but someone had to know

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  2. Armytwowheels

    Armytwowheels Funster Life Member

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    Oh dear, poor you and you love dogs too. I have a bit of a fear of Staffies too, in fact the first one I could bring myself to touch was at last years Malvern meet, in the Funster tent. I forget whose dog it was, but it was a really softy and gave me the confidence to stroke him.

    Perhaps you could ask at your local dog training club if you could go along and just sit and watch now and then. Once you're feeling more relaxed around the bigger dogs ask if you can stand near them and then hopefully stroke one that looks at ease with you.
     
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    Hi Tofo, I was told that the barking dogs don't bite .... it's the quiet ones you have to watch out for. Hope that helps a bit.
     
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    It isn`t the big dogs, I have had German Shepherds, my first one was a 3 year old rescue, and I was terrified of dogs then, apparently it was a German Shepherd that tipped me out of my pram according to my Mother, so that could explain it I suppose, I had seen this dog a few times with friends of ours, but with 5 children their Mother thought it was too much for the room that they had in the house, so I took her on, the best thing I ever did, have had 11 dogs now, anyway I digress, I find it is the smaller dogs like the Jack Russels would bother me now if I didn`t know the dog, I steer clear of Staffies, although a lady has three and she shows at Crufts, when I first met her on the park, I immediately put by Beardie on her lead and was going off the park, the lady shouted to me, that her dogs were alright, so I waited and they were all playing together and had a whale of a time, she understood why I was fearful as Staffies have a bad press, but it is with good reason.

    Hope you feel better soon about other dogs, it is terrible when you cannot enjoy a walk with your own dog and on the lookout all the time. I do understand, have these dogs been reported? surely they must be, the owner is responsible for them.
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    Margaret
     
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  5. tofo

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    If I see them they will be
    But you can't report on hearsay
    But it has me worried to be honest

    If your dog gets out once fair enough
    But after that it's the owners fault
    As they the know it's an escapee
    And a danger to all and itself
    In as much as there is no control on it
    And will probably be defensive aggressive

    All owners should make sure their dogs or animals
    Are not a problem to others

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    i am always sad to see ALL staffies get a very bad press. its the bad owners that fail to socialise their dogs or teach them to be aggressive

    anyone is very welcome to come and meet my 3 to prove that there are good examples of the breed. the majority of people that have met them have absolutely loved them and recieved loads of staffie kisses in return.

    i realise that some fears are really deep seated and based on experience with a few bad apples. however there are people out there that can really help you with such fears. hypnotism really helps but in my experience facing your fear and meeting good dogs is the best way to conquer your phobia

    my offer will always be there. come visit us at a meet and i promise not to pressure you into doing anything you are terrified of:thumb:
     
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  7. RS_rob

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    Could be worse the Mrs has a bird phobia & it don't get any better when she's in her car.
    On the sidewalk she will run away
    In the car she would schrech to a halt if a pigeon walked out or fly in front of her.

    I shalnt tell her about the brave on on my way to work MH won that one :Wink:
     
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