"Just become a reluctant solo motorhomer"

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  1. Hydrocell

    Hydrocell Funster

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    Just become a reluctant solo motorhomer, following the death of my dear wife on the 26th Jan.
    Eileen loved the motorhome lifestyle and we both love touring France Spain and Italy for the last 10 or so years.
    Not sure about going along, so if any funsters can help with some positive advice I would be grateful.
    I’m not a nervous person but at this point I’m still unsure if I want to do it along and sell up, on the other hand I could set off tomorrow or as soon as the van is full.
    My main concern I suppose is when traveling in Europe how do you manage when you can to uneven junction how to see back down the road you wish to join and being sat on the right hand side not wishing to pull out into on coming traffic you are unable to see on you’re left if you see what I mean.
    So if anyone can advise how this can be achieved safely I would be grateful.

    Regards
    Ray
     
  2. big map

    big map Funster Life Member

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    So sorry for your loss.
     
  3. Bailey58

    Bailey58 Funster Life Member

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    Sorry to hear your sad news, it is something we will all face at some time in our lives and each of us will deal with it in different ways. I don't know about time being a great healer but it does put things into perspective eventually and help in deciding how you move on with life.
     
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  4. CWH

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    Ray, I can't help with any of your questions - you know there will be lots of people on here who can - but I wanted to offer my heartfelt sympathies and to encourage you to do as you're thinking, and carry on doing the things that Eileen and you loved. There will be many people you can travel with, or go it alone, and you'll soon find if this is the right thing for you.
    Wishing you all the best and happy memories of your travels with Eileen.
     
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  5. John Laidler

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    Very sorry to hear about the death of your wife but she would have wanted you to keep travelling I am sure.

    To answer your specific question you are in no different a position to a million white van drivers! The trick is to turn the vehicle so you are at a right angle to the road you are joining, even when turning right. You can then see out of the passenger window.

    If it still troubles you contact a local HGV training school and ask for an hour or so of tuition on this specific skill.
     
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  6. John & Joan

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    I face your problem driving a LHD solo in the UK. It is a matter of making sure you position your vehicle so that you can see clearly. I know some junctions can be awkward but setting your mirrors correctly or even fitting an extra one for a different view could be a solution. I have two mirrors on each side.
     
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    So sorry to read of your very sad lose. With regarding your vision down the road what about adjusting our off side door mirror if its electric.
     
  8. Badknee

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    Sorry to hear of your sad loss Ray, there is an active singles forum on Fun that you could have a look at as your not alone.
    Your question has been answered very well in the posts above, all top info for you. Mirrors, position, experience, and mind how you go.
    Good luck. (y)
     
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  9. Taran_Las

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    Please accept my sincere condolences. So sorry to hear your sad news.

    I travel alone most of the time and have found other motorhomers irrespective of nationality always willing to chat and offer advice/tips when needed etc. I very rarely feel alone.

    I ordered a small reversing camera which I was going to mount below the wing mirror at an acute angle to the road which hopefully would allow me to see at those awkward junctions. Unfortunately it was faulty and had to be returned. So I'm currently trying to determine which is the best way to overcome this difficulty. I'll let you know when I come up with a solution. But, if you get there first please let me know.
     
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  10. Judge Mental

    Judge Mental Funster Deceased RIP

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    Sorry for your loss. No knee jerk reactions just see how you feel in a while. I think once you get over the shock of situation life will look different

    Eddie
     
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  11. rikfos

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    I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your dear wife. Try and join a singles group to go travelling with. Join the Motorhomefun group and go to their Meets.
     
  12. beacons

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    Just our sincere sympathy.
    Jan & mike.
     
  13. Theonlysue

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    Sorry for your loss, but don't part with the van just yet.
    There are a lot of solos who regularly attend the shows and camp with fun, book a few and see how you get on.
    Some don't need prepping, Thetford meet for example.
    It will be a huge change for you, but just give it time.
     
  14. Freespirit1

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    Some good advice - my condolences to you Ray,
     
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    So sorry for your loss. I do know how it feels.

    And to help with extra vision, I had a window put in the sliding door in my Transit conversion.
     
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    Ray, what a shock to read your post; unexpected to say the least. Who am I to give 'advice' at such an awful and sad time?

    I would say, take it in small chunks. Don't worry about foreign road junctions right now. You will need time to grieve; to deal with lots of other practicalities. However, I wouldn't sell up at the moment. It may be that the Motorhome and lifestyle that you enjoyed so much will be your conduit to keeping occupied. Not keeping occupied is an enemy and leaves too much time for thought and the spiral of sadness.

    One thing's for sure, you've always got friends whilst there's MHF and Funsters. We have never met, but if we do, there's always a cuppa and a chat available.

    God bless Ray
    James & Sue
     
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    Hi Ray - sorry to hear about your sad loss, and hope that time proves to be a healer.

    I drive am a solo driver an american RV (my first ever motor homing experience) and drove round the uk for a couple of years before crossing the channel. So you will probably find things easier than I did. There are times when seeing traffic coming from the opposite side are difficult. I use a combination of pulling more at right angles to the road, or more obliquely so I can see in the mirrors.

    On occasions nothing seems to work and you just have to pull out (very slowly) and hope for the best. Sometimes I get loud blasts on the horns which un-nerves me but it can be done.

    Good luck - do whatever makes you feel happiest.

    I have no regrets about selling everything and taking to the roads and have been travelling now since the tail end of 2013. :)
     
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  18. Jo662

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    Sorry to hear about your loss.
    If I was you I would keep your motorhome as its a way of meeting people and getting you out and about.
    Sadly life moves on,and I hope you can too!
    Good luck with what ever you choose to do!
     
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  19. madgeD

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    Ray Im so sorry for your loss, I hope you can carry on with your travels, hopefully you can find a way of coping, good luck.

    I would get used to travelling alone in this country first before you venture abroad to get your confidence, Im sure there must be a mirror out there that will help with the left hand blind spot. A singles forum might be the place to ask first Im sure someone will be able to advise.
     
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  20. Brian and Jo

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    So sorry to hear your sad news.dont make any immediate decisions,take your time and use your Motorhome as a means too help you cope with your situation.good luck for the future.there is always loads of help and support on MHF.
    Brian & Jo
     
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