I mentioned I was looking for a motorbike

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  1. bernardfeay

    bernardfeay Read Only Funster

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    I replied to a post last week when a member was looking to buy a Harley. I mentioned that I had been checking out a Yamaha Virago. The bike was on Polish plates and the HMRC people did everything possible to make sure I knew it would be fraught with problems. So, I missed out on that bike. But....

    I have had quite a day of it looking at two identical motorbikes. The first had been owned by a lady who had just retired and got a touch of arthritis. She assured me it was still possible to get your leg over. I politely declined her offer but it was a nice bike and I will be making a bid. Then I set off to see the second bike. The owner was selling due to "health" problems. When I arrived there was nobody home. Eventually, they rolled up and we opened the garage to take a look at the bike. The wife was very worried about her husband who was very unstable on his legs. She needed me to hold him up and make sure he didn't fall. He was equally convinced that he was in fine shape and did not need any help. It soon became apparent that he had some age related problems and I finished up dividing my time between keeping him vertical and stopping him riding the bike and heading off into the sunset. We went into the house for a cup of tea and a chat. He did not know we were in March, he thought he had been riding the bike last week and his wife should stop worrying about him. All in all a very sad tale. Dementia might come to all of us and I have nothing but admiration for those who have to cope with the condition in all its many forms. She was kind, tolerant and slow to grumble, all quite humbling in its way. Sadly, they wanted top whack for the bike and I had to leave them to it. My bid on the other bike won't happen until Sunday. Hope it all goes well. Carers - I take my hat off to you.
     
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  2. TheBig1

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    we are currently dealing with the progress of dementia in three family members. worked all last week emptying the bungalow of one of them who has just moved into a specialist nursing home. Its a wicked disease and an awful way to spend your last few years:cry:

    good luck with the bike and hope you get it out on the open road again where it belongs:thumb:
     
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    one of my wifes sister has it. you just don't know what to the best.
     
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    From what little expedience I have had with dementia, some quite recently with a customer, another sad case
    I soon noticed it was the carers and family that actually "suffer" from dementia, the hosts of this disease often seem quite happy in their own little world and seem able, for the best part to except or at least put up with the confusion that goes with it
    Or am I hoping its that way just in case:Sad:
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    that is the case for some, but many others get very distressed that their brain just wont work like it used to. my mother switches between being suicidal and happy acceptance depending on time of day and how tired she is

    as you say though, its often those that care that suffer the consequences of dementia. my sister has all but given up her career to care for mum, not knowing if she will live 10 weeks or 10 years. nobody knows and its as bad as having an adult toddler with temper tantrums and all. its extremely frustrating
     
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    My only recollection of Dementia in my M-in-Law was when we visited both her and her husband Fred one day. Bear in mind they only lived four or five miles from us and we visited at least twice a week.

    The front door opened and she didn't know her own daughter, she turned to her husband and said Fred there are some people at the door.


    The effect on my wife Jackie was devastating, still today 19 years later it brings a tear to her eye when she recalls the tale to anyone. :Sad:
     
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    we know that feeling.my wifes sister.did not remember me,she told my wife of.why did she not get a invite.we have been married 42 years.and went out for 5 years before that.but she remembers our dog. ???
     
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