Do you get cross with a post sometimes

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  1. jhorsf

    jhorsf Read Only Funster

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    I have learnt quite a lot of things from forums, but the thing that stuck in my mind was getting cross about posts on another forum and taking a dislike to the poster, only to find ( and i am quite embarrassed about this and still feel guilty) the poster was not in good health was going through a terrible time and was very sharp with others because of this.

    I had formed some sort of picture of a person and taken a dislike to them based on the things I read,I knew at this time nothing of the constant pain they were in or all the things they were going through I only found this out later on.

    I wonder if its just me or if you all are wiser than I have been in the past?Its sometimes too easy on these places to form an opinion based purely on the written world and your interpretation what the poster is trying to say, some forums are famous for the spats I am pretty sure they would not happen if it was face to face.


    You are all going to hate me now I have told you this I just know it:Rofl1:
     
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  2. Gromett

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    You're not human if you don't form opinions based on the interactions you have with people. It's normal and natural. As is being wrong occasionally :Wink:

    I will admit I have formed opinions of people on here. However if/when I meet them I don't link the forum persona with the real person at the first time I meet them. To be honest I still struggle to remember the real name/forum name of people I have met many times over many years :Rofl1:

    It's possible I that I am not impressed with someone on here but get on really well with them in real life and visa versa:Doh::BigGrin:
     
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  3. Jim

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    You'd be surpised how many times I get asked in the morning to delete messages made late in the night while under the influence :BigGrin: We can never really know peoples state of mind when they post. Though I'm cetain some start drinking early:Rofl1:

    I might get wound up when posts break one of the few rules we have, but only if its blatant. Otherwise posts don't anger me at all, I enjoy immensely the differing opinions people hold on a diverse range of subjects, from politics to A frames, the more different to my own views the more interesting the debate.

    Mostly Funsters are great at not getting personal (rule 1) which allows threads to continue to a conclusion rather than end with handbags:Smile: Life really is too short to get upset by a few words on a screen, forums are not real life.

    On a forum me and Scotjimland could argue our political differences all day, in real life in meeting Jim, we have never talked politics, in fact, at rallies and meets I have never seen politics or religion discussed by funsters in real life - lifes too short for that too.:Smile:
     
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  4. artona

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    I wonder if the real real real real person is the one you see on line or the one you meet in reality :Eek!:
     
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  5. Jim

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    Is that you Stu? :BigGrin:
     
  6. JockandRita

    JockandRita Funster Life Member

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    No, because we're all to busy having FUN, be it liquefied or not. :Rofl1:

    Cheers,

    Jock.
     
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  7. slobadoberbob

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    in the flesh functor are even better

    In the flesh I find functors to be better.

    I have a job remembering most of there avatar names... but I do find 99% of the time the people I meet are great. Made lots of friends on MHF and it is great when you get to see them year after year.

    Bob
     
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  8. scotjimland

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    I think a lot of people have a persona in the cyber world that is quite different from real life.. Some people find it difficult interacting face to face, on line they find a new freedom, liberated from their inhibitions and shyness. Others use it as a way of reinventing themselves.

    I've only met a few Funsters face to face.. most are as I would have expected, but some are quite different from their cyber persona ..

    When we meet people face to face, it is reckoned that within 30sec our subconscious has made up it's mind whether we like them or not.. That's why the first 30sec of a job interview are so important.. first impressions count .. and you only get one go at it.

    Not so on line.. it's much harder for our sub concious to get a handle on someone , so we make judgements based solely on what they write... and that's easily misinterpreted, leading to judgements that are quite wrong.. some very wrong.
     
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    I am complex

    Jim, I am complex and I am not a women either:Wink:

    Bob:Blush:
     
  10. Hayleylulu

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    i get cross with my self when on the beer as Jim as to delete posts i put on . :Doh::Doh:
     
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    I have asked the question and both of me are quite nice, in fact one of me is great....He said.:Rofl1:
     
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  12. scotjimland

    scotjimland Funster Life Member

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    Cyber chat

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    I get annoyed every now and again but it soon wears off. Surprisingly I don't hold grudges either.

    However, there's always the exception that proves the rule. I hadn't taken part in Internet forums of any description when I joined Fun. I think it was the first post that I ever made and it was about tyres.

    I was immediately jumped on by some loon who really needed a good smack. Another guy jumped in and between the two of them they killed me.

    I was amazed because as said this was my first time on any forum. Over time I've learnt.

    I have remembered the nutter who had a go at me in the first place and he is still on the forum. He doesn't say much now and I suspect he's on RVOC more than here.

    I said at the time that we would meet up and we will.

    Jim
     
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    yes some posts make me quite cross.

    that's why I always go to meets fully armed, Ive managed to waste about 7 funsters so far when in the dead of night, I enter there Vans whilst they are comatosed and fart several times.

    You may well of seen the posts from these people, they start by saying that they were gassed.


    Ive met too many Funsters to worry about it, anyone who holds a grudge about something said on a forum ain't really worth knowing. Unless its a personal attack, and we don't get many of them. I have however avoided people at meets because I suspect they are not the sort of person I would want anything to do with any way.
    I did have someone come up to me and tell me they did not like my postings, to which I replied, neither did I :Laughing:



    My biggest learnt lesson was Brian Hilldweller, when reading his posts in the early days I thought he must be really horrible. However on meeting him and Dinah proved to be one of the nicest people on the forum.
     
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    :Laughing:I used to indulge in verbal swordplay on others forums, but to be honest, as in real life, it takes a special group of mates who can slate each other all day without getting arsey, and you dont make those mates in cyberspace.

    I really have a laugh on here, but , the discussion is always good, and genarally people dont make me get in touch with "the dark side", so its an enjoyable experience. the way I book it, the more times I,m wrong, or the more people have an opposing view, the more I learn...and that's a buzz:BigGrin:

    In a club I was in a while back, we had a rule, that people had to go to three "meets" before they were allowed to join a "big trip", this is because experience taught us thet you dont really get to know people online.......and the last place you want to find out someones a complete arsehole, is three days into a holiday:BigGrin:, it kinda cuts down on the vilolence a bit:Rofl1:

    I treat this forum as an intriduction, it takes a little courage for me to meet new people, so this breaks the ice.......hopefully, our first meet at Newark, will be the first of many.
     
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    I hope I am the same in real life as in the cyber life
    wysiwyg any serious discussion there's me looking for the laugh

    Life is to short to get wound up with letters on a screen

    Found that out few years held a grudge against one fella
    Only to find he had moved to the next world just after
    I last spoke didn't find out for 4 years waste of a grudge
    Never held another since

    Someone wants to be a [STRIKE]ar[/STRIKE] grumpy let em get on with it:thumb:
     
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    MY wife gets cross when she reeds some of my post and lets me know it
     
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  18. JockandRita

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    We certainly hope your first meet will be the first of many too. See you there. :thumb:

    Best regards,

    Jock & Rita.
     
  19. MHVirgins

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    Yes, I do get annoyed with posts/replies on here and other forums:Angry:

    I sometimes wonder why some people need to be rude, but the majority of people on forums are ok and good-natured, but there's always one or two, but that's life in general I suppose:RollEyes:

    I don't see the point in leaving rude comments and it puzzles me as to how some can be so childish as well, but that tells you something about the person, doesn't it:Angry:

    If you don't agree with someone's post then "healthy debate" is fine, but why be rude?



     
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  20. sedge

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    Well I was hoist with my own petard when I was just 17 years old. I worked in an insurance company, our office was on the first floor. Used to regularly speak to people at the Abbey National BS, opposite. Two lads about 18. One dead Brunmmie, the other didn't have a Brummie accent at all, thought he sounded quite posh.

    Anyway seeing it was about lunchtime one day, one of em said come to the widow, we'll go to the window and wave. So we did. One was the picture of gorgeousness with blond hair, looked very Mod, which was Very Important. The other had dark hair, Brylcreemed and combed back. Quiff. Oh dear, obviously has Rocker tendencies.

    Anyway the Brummie one asked my out and I thought, No Way, Rocker man. So I politely declined.

    A week later someone else in the office was talking to a lady who worked there and the subject came up in conversation. She was gobsmacked actually - told my colleague she was really surprised at that 'cos Rob is gorgeous! they all fight over him here, so I'm surprised Jen didn't accept really' - so colleague said Which one is he? - 'the blond, good looking one' ......

    :Rofl1:

    For all I know to this day, he could have been a prize pillock in real life - but I denied myself the chance to find out and it does tell you - you should never judge a book by it's cover!

    And what are posts on a forum? Nowt but the cover of the book .....
     
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